“My baby is too young. I’m going to start. Well, how am I going to pass this on to him? I don’t know how to prepare him for separation.” Here’s what we’re talking about. How to work separation before you start work…
After giving birth, it is very valuable to manage the process of leaving your baby or child with the end of maternity leave. Because until then, you’re much closer, you’re in a relationship where there’s no third, and you’re going home long- term; it is a very difficult and difficult process for the child and for the mother. So, what should you pay attention to when managing this process?
Get Him Used to This Process
When you manage the separation process, first of all, what you need to know is that you’re not going to be able to do that. That you can’t just leave your baby or your child’s life. Before you start work, you can prepare for your work; in the life of a child, you must make a preliminary preparation at the end and beginning of each process. So, how long before you start work, how long do you have to start working on the separation? At least 1 month ago…
In fact, working this separation process should start from the beginning of the breastfeeding period and you should be able to gradually split when you establish that safe relationship with the baby. However, it is not the first time We cannot manage the breastfeeding process in a healthy way and we are unable to manage the separation process in the early stages of infancy.
You managed it or couldn’t manage it. So, how should you manage this right now when you get a job? A month ago, you should start preparing. Who’s going to take care of your child while you’re gone? Whoever is the primary minister, you must start working with that person at least 1 month in advance.
Plan The Observation Process
Before the job starts, sometimes we get support from the babysitter, sometimes from grandparents. In order to invite these people home and to relate to the child, observe the child and you, and learn the order within the house; The person who takes care of both your child and your child must know an observation process.
While experiencing this phase; First of all, you need to plan the observation process of the person who comes to your home. One day, two days, one week… After completing this process, we will not be able to do so. in order to pass on the separation to your child, you must be slowly leaving the house. Unfortunately, we’re a little worried and concerned about this. It is reflected in your child’s one-on-one that you meet and worry about the separation in such a worrying way. Therefore, as a mother, you get a lot of work to do. You need to normalize this situation, accept it first, and, with this acceptance, you need to pass it on to your baby or child in a calmer way.
Cascading is very valuable in a child’s life. In fact, for us, so… Because we need to tame ourselves step by step, prepare ourselves for that process, and teach ourselves to change even our ingrained, stereotyped habits. Is this different for the kids? No!
Likewise, you’re going to have to If there is a beginning and end in a child’s life, if there is a new layout, it is necessary to cascade to get used to that order. There’s a cascading of separation, too.
Usually mothers say, “I’m going to work anyway. The more time I spend with my child until the last minute, the more snow i think.” However, this is unfortunately not something that ends, it’s exhausted. It’s not what we call life. Therefore, it is actually very valuable that you have an hour, two hours, three hours, four hours from the beginning, but to work by stepping up separation and for this you give both the child and yourself time.
You did the cascade. Before you start work, you’re going to have to You’ve prepared the house, the order, the person who’s going to take care of it. You also planned time to study the separation. Next up, you’re having a breakup, and at this moment, moms and fathers; When they run away or go to work without waking up the child, they actually create an ambiguous and chaotic situation for the child. In such a case, your child may be concerned that the parents will be able to go at any time. Therefore, you can always ask your child; Even if he doesn’t wake up, it’s very valuable to put an object reminding you, or to complete the separation by talking at that moment and living the pain there together.
Always be honest with your child, tell me where to go and normalize separation. “Honey, I’m going to go to work now and I’ll be back in an hour. And when I get here, we’re going to play some great games and share life. I’ll see you.” This is the moment of separation, actually a normalized moment. We do it with anxiety and panic by saying, “Goodbye, see you.” Or, duwe make rumu such a pain…
In an anxious tone, “Goodbye, sweetheart. I’ll go, okay? You stay here now, play your game here, I will surely come.” If you act at the time of separation without worrying so much, without so much agitation, normalizing separation; In fact, maybe after the first, second or third try, your child may have the confidence that “My mother will go and come back.” Therefore, as parents you are falling to a lot of work.
Before you start work, you’re going to have to Instead of starting a job and leaving the child’s life at once, you have to work by stepping up the separation.